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Sadness, a terrible kind of schooling —Chimamanda Adichie

Writer, Chimamanda Adichie has said grief is a cruel kind of education.

The ‘Half of a Yellow Sun’ author held a reading for her recent work, ‘Notes on Grief’, on Saturday, January 15, 2022, at Alliance Francaise, Ikoyi, Lagos, where she reiterated that she did not think she could pass on the love she had for her late father to another person.

The book is dedicated to the writer’s late father, Prof James Adichie.

The event began with an opening address from the French ambassador to Nigeria, Emmanuelle Batman.

Adichie recalled how she and her siblings used to set up Zoom calls to talk with her father at the height of the COVID-19 pandemic in 2020.

She added that when her father passed away, her daughter became scared of how she (Chimamanda) reacted.

She said, “Grief is a cruel kind of education. You learn how ungentle mourning can be, how full of anger you learn and how glib condolences can feel. The pain is not surprising but its physicality is. Grief is forcing new skins on me, scrapping scales from my eyes.”

The writer also thanked business mogul, Mike Adenuga, for his ‘extraordinary contribution that made all this happen’.

She maintained that since the centre was opened, it had supported the cultural vision of Lagos.

Another publisher and writer, Eghosa Imasuen, also revealed that when he lost his father in 2018, Adichie was among the first persons to call him from the United States of America.

He noted that there was no better way to grief with someone than to be there for the person, and Adichie was there for him.

He added, “It is one thing for us to say that our children should bury us; it is another thing for us to experience it. Nothing prepares you for this.”

Gender discrimination

During the olden days, people live together without noticing any difference among them. They accept each other with love and they shower kindness on each other they trust one another and help one another during their difficult times.

During this time things were going on well brothers were living and eating from one plate with an open heart and with the thought nothing will happen until 2000 things begin to change little by little they no longer see each other as a family not do they eat together fear began and hatred is been developed brother no longer call brother brother nor consider each other

Sisters became enemies they no longer share secrets they are scared to do so

Churches became a making money centre

Prostitution came in and fornication is now the lyrics of every human, people now sin with pride everything changed but yet one thing didn’t change women are still treated like before they are been denied many things but still they consider the world to be an amazing place where things have changed for good but ladies can be allowed to do many things instead they are still living the life of 80s where the thought what women are good at is doing the house work and taking care of the children and satisfying men on bed

In this recent time, ladies are judged quickly without knowing what the problem is

Politics

Women’s political representation globally has doubled in the last 25 years. But, this only amounts to around 1 in 4 parliamentary seats held by women today. 

Women continue to be significantly underrepresented in the highest political positions. In October 2019, there were only 10 women Head of State and 13 women Head of Government across 22 countries, compared with four Head of State and eight Prime Ministers across 12 countries in 1995.

LEADERSHIP

Despite Progress, the Gender Gap Is Still Wide at Senior Levels19

Extremely limited women are CEOs of the earth’s largest corporations. As of the August 2020 Fortune Global list, only 13 women (2.6%) were CEOS of Fortune Global 500 companies and all of them were white

A 2020 analysis by Mercer of over 1,100 organizations across the world found a leaky pipeline for women in leadership, with the representation of women decreasing as the levels progress:21

  • Executives: 23%
  • Senior managers: 29%
  • Managers: 37%
  • Professionals: 42%
  • Support staff: 47%

Percentage of Women in the Workforce

The inequities experienced by women in the workplace are shocking, as seen by the below statistics:

  • Women represented  47% of the total labour force in 2019.
  • 57.4% of women participated in the labour force in 2019, compared to 69.2% of men.
  • Women are more likely to lose their jobs due to automation by some estimates.
  • 58% of workers in the most at-risk jobs are women.
  • For every 100 men promoted to the manager, only 85 women were promoted.
  • At the beginning of 2020, women held 38% of manager-level positions, while men held 62%.
  • The 2020 Fortune 500 list revealed a record high number of 37 women CEOs, compared to the 463 CEO positions held by men.

Women of Color in the Workplace

In 2019 people of color made up of nearly 40% of the population. However, people of colour continue to face bias in the workplace.

And women of color especially experience extreme inequity in the workforce.

  • For every 100 men promoted to manager, only 58 Black women and 71 Latinas were promoted.
  • 1 in 3 Latinas work in a high risk field.
  • Men held 77.5% of fortune 500 boards seats in 2018, while women held 22.5%. But only 4.6% of these seats were held by women of color.
  • Men held 74% of S&P 500 board seats while women held 26%. In the top 200 companies in the S&P 500 board seats, only 6% were held by womencolourolor — 4% by Black women, 1% by Latinas, and 1% by Asian women.

Women of colour are more likely to stagnate in their careers than white women. They are also more represented in individual contributor roles and the least represented higher up on the corporate ladder.

To stop this change begins with you and say no to gender discrimination

He deserves Justice

On Tuesday 30/11/2021 we lost our brother 12 years old Sylvester Oromoni Junior. He was a son, grandson, brother, cousin, uncle to his little nieces, he was a friend , he meant everything to us and Yes he was only a child an innocent child . He was taken from us from in the most gruesome of manner beaten by senior 5 boys in his hostel in Dowen College lekki Lagos state. He was tortured by these boys in his school and compelled to silence otherwise they threatened to kill him. This torture and beatings lead to injuries unimaginable and the school authorities without proper duty of care took his agony at face value and claimed he had a fall playing soccer. Without proper investigation or care they called his parents to pick him up. The family upon seeing their once healthy vibrant child knew this pains and injuries were beyond a domestic fall. The child could barely articulate words and move without these heart wrenching painful sounds. 
Sylvester Junior reported to the family he did not fall as alleged by the school. He said he was beaten and tortured by 5 senior students and mentioned their names. The students are from influential families and the school is trying to bury the case. 
Sign and help us find justice for Sylvester Oromoni Junior . It’s our fight he could be your son , your brother, your cousin. #justiceforsylvester

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PATIENCE

Patience: is the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, problems, or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious.

Bible

But if we hope for that we see not, then do we with patience wait for it. Roman 8:25

Quran

Ayah 5

فَٱصْبِرْ صَبْرًۭا جَمِيلًا

So be patient with gracious patience.

Patience is the greatest key to success to archive something big you need to be patient it doesn’t matter how difficult things are going just be positive

Have you ever considered why in most things we passed through why patience is always among and the most important God will always bless you but you need to be patient for that to come not that God can’t bless you without being patient but in every sweet story there must be a breakthrough and in every breakthrough, there must be patience

Life is a race if you’re not patient you won’t reach the end point

Edmund Burke

“Our patience will achieve more than our force.”

Making money is easy but requires hard work and hard work requires patience

Getting married is easy but what about when you haven’t conceived and is about year’s you’ve gotten married I know it’s painful but all you need is to be patient most times is us not being patient that causes it

For teens, you want to be in a relationship have you considered getting pregnant if you do can you bear the pain for nine months, can you bear the pain of pushing then if no be patient

The business you run don’t feel bad if things are not falling in place all you need is just patient

Mahatma Gandhi

“To lose patience is to lose the battle.”

So do you want to be conquered, so if you don’t want to be conquered just be patient and fight more

Dogs Are Currently Better Treated Than Humans >Shan George

Veteran Actress, Shan George has expressed concern on how humans now treat dogs.

She took to her instagram story on Saturday morning to say humans now treat Dogs better than their fellow humans just as she described the development as “end time.”

she wrote;

”Humans now treating their dogs better than they treat their fellow humans. It’s really endtime indeed.”

The veteran Nollywood actress had been active in the movie industry since 1996 and rose to prominence when she featured in a movie titled “Outkast”

Shan was born to a Nigerian mum and a British dad. She had her first marriage was when she was 16.

Oyedepo warns youths against impatience, quick wealth

President of Living Faith Church (LFC) International (Winners Chapel), Bishop David Oyedepo, has warned youths against impatience and the appetite for getting rich quick.

He urged them to shun a lifestyle of hurrying after the world’s glitters, saying impatience could lead to a life of horror.

Bishop Oyedepo spoke at the weekend at the convocation ceremony of Landmark University at Omu-Aran in Kwara State.

Forty-five students of the faith-based institution graduated with first-class degree honours, while the total number of the graduates was 468.

Bishop Oyedepo, who is also the Chancellor of the university, warned that “hurrying is the breeding ground for horror”.

He added: “It is common knowledge that most victims of accidents are men and women in a hurry, insensitive to road signs, and those who engage in speeding, ending their lives before they know.

“The word ‘patience’ is no longer in the vocabulary of our youths. They don’t believe in the dignity of labour, leading to many losing their lives. Some other youths are into illicit drug business. A number of these may have been shot dead in the course of their businesses and many may be languishing in various prisons around the world.

“Some youths must have joined armed robbery gangs because they could not wait. The process is too slow for them. A number of youths today engage in computer scam (internet fraud) and many are grieving in prison, while others continue to suffer irreversible curses from their victims.

“Furthermore, today, a particular syndrome is the craving to travel out of the country without a defined mission. You ask some of these youths: ‘You must travel, but to where?’ You may be surprised to hear their answer: ‘Anywhere’. Or: ‘You are travelling to do what?’ Their response is: ‘Anywhere.’

“There is nothing wrong in going out to study, but there is everything wrong in living one’s life to chance. Life without a mission is adventure in frustration. Travelling out of the country is not an achievement.”

The eminent cleric counseled the youth to guard their lives jealously, saying: “Remember, you have only one life to live and you don’t have a spare.”

The university’s Vice Chancellor, Prof. Charity Aremu, enjoined the graduands to “engage their royalty to preserve and uphold the blessedness of upon this university’s ground”.

He added: “Build hopes, your tenacity; build international network and resilience. Tenaciously embrace Landmark University’s core values as your strength. Make contributions anywhere you find yourselves. Place character before you as your exchange for values and worth.”

Woman Faints After Public Flogging For Extramarital Affair (Photos)

A woman from the city of Banda Aceh in Indonesia collapsed in agony as she was flogged publicly for having sex outside of marriage.

The unnamed woman was sentenced to 17 strokes of the cane along with her partner.

The punishment was carried out by an official wearing a head-to-toe brown cloak with their identity obscured by a mask.

The woman, wearing traditional Islamic dress, was flogged with a bamboo cane.

Pictures show her slumping to the ground in agony as the punishment is carried out.

Her partner was flogged at the same event.

Aceh is the only Indonesian province which operates under Sharia law – which sees rules governed by a radical interpretation of Islam’s holy book the Quran.

The most serious sentences – for homosexuality, for example – can entail up to 150 lashes. Victims frequently pass out during their sentence or have to be hospitalised afterwards.

People Went ahead dropping comments on this insulting one another

The only comment that makes sense is this

Where is the man if her partner was flogged at the same event then where is the picture why only the woman

Some asked what did the Bible say or did to people involved

Bible

John 8:1-11New Living Translation

A Woman Caught in Adultery

8 Jesus returned to the Mount of Olives, but early the next morning he was back again at the Temple. A crowd soon gathered, and he sat down and taught them. As he was speaking, the teachers of religious law and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in the act of adultery. They put her in front of the crowd.

“Teacher,” they said to Jesus, “this woman was caught in the act of adultery. The law of Moses says to stone her. What do you say?”

They were trying to trap him into saying something they could use against him, but Jesus stooped down and wrote in the dust with his finger. They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!” Then he stooped down again and wrote in the dust.

When the accusers heard this, they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest, until only Jesus was left in the middle of the crowd with the woman. 10 Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?”

11 “No, Lord,” she said.

And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.”

They were stoning people during time of Moses they were following Moses law until they coming of Jesus

Quran


Book 17, Number 4196:

Abu Huraira reported that a person from amongst the Muslims came to Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) while he was in the mosque. He called him saying: Allah’s Messenger. I have committed adultery. He (the Holy Prophet) turned away from him, He (again) came round facing him and said to him: Allah’s Messenger, I have committed adultery. He (the Holy Prophet) turned away until he did that four times, and as he testified four times against his own self, Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) called him and said: Are you mad? He said: No. He (again) said: Are you married ? He said: Yes. Thereupon Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) said : Take him and stone him. Ibn Shihab (one of the narrators) said: One who had heard Jabir b. ‘Abdullah saying this informed me thus: I was one of those who stoned him. We stoned him at the place of prayer (either that of ‘Id or a funeral). When the stones hurt him, he ran away. We caught him in the Harra and stoned him (to death). This hadith has been narrated through another chain of transmitters.

Nazarite

Numbers 6:1–21

Who is a Nazarite

A Nazarite is someone who is chosen by God either before his birth or after birth, mainly the message is usually brought by an angel

But nowadays people still think Nazarites doesn’t exist, Nazarites are still existing they might not be chosen in the way it was done during the time of Samson and other Nazarites are also chosen by God through prophets and men and women of God

Existing as a Nazarite had zero to do with a direction, class or ethnicity, but was the title given to those who conserved a specific code of conduct as a way to demonstrate dedication to God. A Nazarite had to fulfil at least three main requirements: abstain from drinking alcohol or any product of the grapevine, and from eating grapes in all their forms; abstain from cutting the hair on the head, and avoid touching dead bodies.

A person became a Nazarite in at least three ways: by making a voluntary Nazarite vow to God, to be maintained for a specific period of time; by one of his parents offering him to God, to be a Nazarite from birth onward; and by God appointing a person as a lifetime Nazarite. The Bible character Samson, for example, was a Nazarite from birth because an angel appeared to his parents before he was conceived and told them that he would be a Nazarite. The boy Samuel was promised to God as a Nazarite by his mother before he was conceived. Although John the Baptist was never directly called a Nazarite, it’s likely that he was one because God directed him, via his parents, to abstain from wine and other liquor.

The stereotypical portrayal of Jesus is the thin, long-haired, white-robed man, seen commonly in Christian artwork. But some, such as Jehovah’s Witnesses, believe that since Jesus was not under a Nazarite vow, he was not required to grow out his hair. Therefore, according to some, it’s likely that Jesus’ hair was neatly trimmed in a style similar to other Jewish men of the day.

Nazarites in the Bible

You may have heard of Samson, one of the strongest men alive, and a judge of Israel (Judges 16). You may have also heard that Samson ran into trouble when he ate some honey from a lion’s carcass or got his hair trimmed

When Samuel’s, another judge of Israel, mother Hannah dedicates him, God instructs her that no blade is to come to his head (1 Samuel 1:11). This means he cannot cut his hair, one of the hallmarks of a Nazarite (more on this in a moment).

What Nazarites are not to do

  • First, Nazarites refrained from drinking alcohol.
  • Secondly, they had to avoid getting near or touching anything that has perished including family gravesites.
  • Lastly, for the interval of the vow, a Nazarite could not cut their hair.

In recent days of ours when Nazarites barbs they do fall sick and also experience difficult challenges such as

  • Attacks
  • Weakness in their prayer life
  • Weakness in the spiritual life etc

Never blame them for any mistake because they might be going through a lot and if you come across them place don’t false them to barb not only will they suffer